Connecting with Jesus as an INFP usually starts easy and gets hard in the same place. The easy part is conviction, because you already feel things at full volume and God is not a hard sell to somebody built that way. The hard part is what happens when the conviction meets an ordinary Tuesday church, an ordinary job, and people who don't seem to care as much as you do.
Jeremiah Tried to Quit
Jeremiah is the prophet people call the weeping prophet, and this is the passage that earned him the name. He has been telling Judah the truth for years, nobody wants it, and he is worn out. So he prays one of the most honest prayers in the Bible:
"You deceived me, Lord, and I was deceived; you overpowered me and prevailed. I am ridiculed all day long; everyone mocks me. Whenever I speak, I cry out proclaiming violence and destruction. So the word of the Lord has brought me insult and reproach all day long. But if I say, 'I will not mention his word or speak anymore in his name,' his word is in my heart like a fire, a fire shut up in my bones. I am weary of holding it in; indeed, I cannot" (Jeremiah 20:7-9).
Read what he is actually saying. He tried to stop. He made the decision, and he named it out loud, and then he found he couldn't carry it out. The word was in him like a fire and holding it in wore him out worse than speaking it did.
That is the closest thing in scripture to what a conviction-driven person lives with. You care about something, you have tried to care less, and caring less turned out not to be available.
The Fire Isn't Proof That You're Right
Notice that Jeremiah's fire was the word of the Lord, not his own conscience. That distinction is the one thing this passage will not let you skip, and it's the one an INFP most needs.
You feel strongly about a lot of things. Some of them are God, and some of them are you, and from the inside they use the same equipment. The test isn't how strongly it burns. The test is whether it's the word of the Lord that's burning. Jeremiah could name what God said and when. So the practice here is unglamorous. Read the passage before you consult the feeling. If what you're burning about can be traced to something God actually said, keep burning. If you can't trace it, you may still be right, but hold it more loosely than the feeling wants you to.
The Gap Is Where Most INFPs Leave
The gap is the distance between the church you can picture and the church you actually attend, and it is the thing most likely to walk you out the door. You imagine a body of people who mean it. Then you get a building with a budget, a worship set that's a little long, and somebody who says the wrong thing in small group.
Jeremiah's gap was worse than yours. He was preaching to a nation that was about to be carried off, and he stayed. Not because he made peace with it. He stayed because the word was in his bones and there was nowhere else to put it.
So take the gap seriously and don't let it make the decision. Talk to one person about the specific disappointment, name it plainly, and then keep showing up while it's unresolved. Leaving is easy for you, because you can always picture somewhere better. That picture is the thing to be careful with.
In the Vineyard, this gets talked about as the already and not yet. God's kingdom is here now, breaking in, healing people, changing things, and it is not here in full yet, which is why the church you attend is both real and disappointing at the same time. Both halves are true and you're not allowed to drop either one. An idealist tends to hold the "not yet" so tightly that nothing present is ever good enough, and the fix isn't lowering your hopes. It's letting the "already" count. God is at work in the ordinary Sunday you find underwhelming, and some weeks the only way to see that is to look for it on purpose.
Who Else Ran on Conviction
If you came here looking for which Bible characters were INFPs, the four letters aren't in the text and never will be. The pattern is, though, and it lands on the same few people every time.
Jeremiah keeps delivering a message he'd rather not carry, and tells God so. Mary of Bethany sits at Jesus' feet while the work piles up in the next room, and later pours a year's wages over those same feet without explaining herself to anybody. John writes the Gospel that lingers longest on love, belonging, and abiding. David writes psalms that turn from despair to worship inside a single poem.
None of that makes them INFPs. It does mean scripture is full of people whose faith ran on interior conviction, and not one of them was asked to become someone else first.
Four Things Worth Trying
Four things worth trying, and a month on any of them is enough to know. Write your prayers instead of thinking them, because you'll be more honest on paper than in your head. When something burns in you, go find where God says it in scripture before you act on it. When the gap opens between what you hoped for and what you got, say it to one person instead of turning it over alone. And when you want to leave, wait a month before you decide.
Jeremiah's fire never went out and it never got easier. God didn't fix that, and he didn't ask Jeremiah to stop feeling it either. He gave him the words to say and people to say them to. That's what he does with a heart like yours.