If you're an INFP, three practices suit how you're built: writing your prayers instead of thinking them, reading scripture slowly enough to react, and letting one honest sentence out to another person. All three work on the same problem, which is that a great deal is happening inside you and almost none of it gets out.
The Spirit Prays What You Can't Word
There's a passage that most people meet in a crisis and it's worth having before then.
"In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God's people in accordance with the will of God" (Romans 8:26-27).
Take the middle claim seriously. We do not know what we ought to pray for. Paul writes that about all Christians, not about the ones doing it badly, and the answer is not that you should work harder on the wording. The Spirit is already praying, underneath, in something that isn't language.
For a type that feels far more than it can articulate, that verse relocates the problem. What's inside you does not have to be resolved into sentences before God can receive it.
Practice One: Write It Rather Than Think It
You will be more honest on paper than in your head, and by a wide margin.
Thinking a prayer lets you skip. You gesture at the difficult part, note that God knows anyway, and move on. Writing makes you finish the sentence, and the sentence you'd have avoided is usually the one that mattered.
So keep a notebook that nobody reads. Write to God in your own words, unedited, including the parts that are unfair or unresolved. Don't reread it looking for progress. The writing is the prayer, not a record of one.
If a structured prayer list has never survived more than a fortnight with you, this is why. The format was wrong, not your commitment.
Practice Two: Read Slowly Enough to React
Volume-based reading plans do not suit this type. A chapter a day gets skimmed and forgotten.
Take four or five verses instead. Read them twice. Then write two sentences on what you felt, what you resisted, and what you'd want to argue with. Reaction is your way in, and treating it as a distraction from proper study throws away the thing you actually bring.
The Psalms are the obvious place to start, since they were written by people doing exactly this. So are the Gospels, read as scenes rather than as material.
Practice Three: Say One Thing Out Loud
The third practice is the costly one and it's short.
Once a week, tell one person one true thing about how you're actually doing. Not the summary. The specific, unflattering, unresolved version.
This is the practice, because everything else on this page happens inside you or on paper where nobody sees it. An INFP can maintain a rich private spiritual life for years while nobody in their church knows a single real thing about them, and then feel unknown, which is accurate and also self-inflicted.
When You Want to Leave
Worth naming, since this is the type most likely to.
At some point the gap between the church you can picture and the one you attend will open wide enough that leaving looks like integrity. Sometimes it is. Far more often the picture you're comparing it to doesn't exist anywhere, and the next church will produce the same gap in eighteen months.
So make a rule now: when you want to leave, say the specific disappointment to one person there, and wait a month before deciding. That single delay has kept more people in a church than any argument about commitment.
Lament Is a Format, Not a Failure
Worth knowing about, since a third of the Psalms are doing it and almost nobody is taught the shape.
A psalm of lament usually names the trouble in detail, complains directly to God about it, and then turns, though not always, and not always convincingly. Psalm 88 never turns at all and it's still in the book.
That's a permission most people don't have. You do not have to arrive at a hopeful ending before a prayer counts. If you're in a stretch where nothing resolves, pray a lament as written, out of the book, and let it end where it ends.
Where to Go Next
The companion piece is connecting with Jesus as an INFP, built on Jeremiah, who tried to stop and found he couldn't.
For the type description, what it means to be an INFP covers the four letters and where the nickname came from. Everything for this type is gathered here.
Write it down, read it slowly, and let one person hear one true sentence this week.